Who do we have a give-and-take account (karma) with?

[Ashok]

We generally have the highest give-and-take account with the people we are closest to and family members.

If we were to consider all the give-and-take accounts we have in our lifetime with the people that we know then who would be the people we have the most give and take account with? The following table is a breakdown of the relative intensity of the account across our various relationships.

Give and take account with              %
Spouse                                               27
Parents – child relation                         25
Siblings                                                9
Close friends                                        9
People romantically involved                   9
Colleagues                                           9
Other relatives                                     4
Other acquaintances
(neighbours, friends and associates)      4
Others                                                4
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Totals                                          100
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Our spiritual research has shown that generally we have the highest give-and-take account with our spouse. We have known our spouse in a previous life-time and the reason we get together is primarily to settle an outstanding give-and-take account from a previous or series of previous life-times. Unlike what people think, that we marry the person of our choosing; it is not so. Marriage is 100% destined and so are all the other major relationships such as father, mother, and siblings. So when we say beauty is in the eyes of the beholder we are not far from the truth. While outwardly it may seem that a couple is in love and that is the reason they got together, spiritually it is just settling of a give-and-take account.

source: http://www.spiritualresearchfoundation.org/